Finding Joy & Gratitude Through Grief Coaching

I know you are wondering how you even survive grief, so how do you find joy and gratitude while suffering? Have you tried a grief coach? Learn how grief coaching can help you find what you don't even know how to get or what you are looking for.

In The Chip Aisle Again?

Life is already like trying to fold a fitted sheet—awkward and confusing—but toss in a loss, and suddenly it's like trying to fold a fitted sheet while riding a unicycle. Whether you've misplaced a person, a pet, a job, your ability to have children, your ability to do cartwheels, or even lost touch with your favorite cousin, grief can feel like a snowball rolling downhill, picking up more chaos as it goes. But hey, you don't have to juggle all those emotions while blindfolded and alone!

Many coaches will swear that one methodology is the magic cure-all, but let's be real, there is no one flavor of herbal tea for everyone. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for someoe else. So, what's your jam? What floats your boat? If someone tries to sell you on a one-size-fits-all grief solution, they might as well be selling snake oil. Your grief is as unique as your collection of mismatched socks. You're the expert on what you need, but a little guidance, support, and a fresh perspective never hurt anyone.

Finding The Joy Again.

Fantastic News! You don't have to "get over it." Nope, but you do have to wade through it and cozy up with what feels like the pit of despair, but not forever. Staying stuck cheats the world of all the fantastic things you can bring to it. Perhaps sharing my experience will help you.

When my little brother Anthony drowned in a pool, I was on a wild goose chase looking for him everywhere. I was too young to grasp the whole death thing. My daughter had a similar experience when my husband passed away. She kept asking for her "Papa." Every time she saw someone on a motorcycle, she'd point and say, "Look, Mama, there's Papa." I finally had to tell her he was up there hanging out with the stars, so she wouldn't think every biker was her dad on a joyride that never ended.

I did enjoy her excitement seeing those bikers, but it wasn't going to help us move forward. We lost the most significant piece of our puzzle —the glue that held us together as a family. But hey, I had a little one on the way, which was our silver lining. Our family was going to be different, but I promised not to force joy on anyone. Instead, I'd recognize it when it popped up. Be present and make mohawks with the kids using bathtub bubbles. Finding joy in small places allows it to slowly seep back in, transforming your gloomy world into a vibrant one again.

Feeling joy without guilt is like finding a unicorn in your backyard—totally possible and super awesome! Guilt loves to crash the party when you're grieving, like that one friend who always overstays their welcome. But fear not! A grief coach is like your personal gardener, helping you weed out those pesky guilt plants to discover your new happy place. Usually, all it takes is giving yourself the green light to move forward. So, don't let grief become your new identity. Coaching is like your GPS out of the grief jungle!

Having Gratitude For What's Still Is

It might feel like you're down to your last potato chip, and I get it—I've been there, mourning the loss of many epic snack bags in addition to the person you lost. I have also found comfort in that place. Telling yourself that your favorite person wouldn't want you wallowing in crumbs doesn't exactly turn that frown upside down. So, what does? A little navel-gazing and a deep dive into the snack aisle of your soul. You've got the answers; we need to figure out the next best steps. We do not require giant leaps. Baby steps can be a comfort during a time of grief. Remember, you do not need to tackle this alone.

Hiring a grief coach is one option, like a personal trainer for your heart. Or maybe you'll stumble upon another solution that fits like your favorite pair of stretchy pants. Family and friends mean well, but they're often as lost as you are in the chip aisle. Often, friends and family are best for a different kind of support when you are ready to take the first steps with Bloom Coaching Practice. We can redefine your happiness together. You can't get back what you had, but being open to new experiences is a good start. Focus on what makes you smile today.